Tim Shyshka’s story

Tim’s story 

We are providing a detailed story on the tragic situation our brother endured along with our family. 

Our goal is to change, amend, or at least bring awareness to the flaws in the laws in British Columbia so no one is taken advantage of in the future by someone like this and no other family has to endure this. 

This person manipulated herself into our lives as a “friend” and turned on us so fast none of us saw it coming, all so she could gain 100% of  my brothers estate, for herself and her family,  completely omitting us out of his Will which we used to be in per his wishes when he was of sound mind, and before she convinced him to delete us, sadly our brother died and his wishes were not fulfilled, and he was put thru such an emotional tole in the process.. and so were the rest of us. 

All of us have have felt like we need to go to grief/anger counselling in order to figure out a way to deal with the trauma she has caused ..The emotional toll this has brought on not only my brother in the last years of his life but also our family is something we’re not soon going to get over. Anyone even mentions her name and we all shudder.. we know we met evil when we met her ..

My brother was married twice before and never would either of the women in his past ever even thought of doing anything this to him or our family. They were honest good women. He remained in love with his second wife he told me in confidence .. he never loved Linda he said she was never his type .. she forced himself on him.. sadly he fell for it and it ruined his life.. and in the end killed him

This marriage was the worst thing that ever happened to him, and to our family, I remember when she first met him she phone and try to get me to talk him into marrying her because he didn’t want to. And to some degree I did I was on her side I wanted them to be happy,  but she ended up being a wolf in sheep‘s clothing. One of the biggest regrets of my life is that she married my brother. Our whole family feels that way. 

The hardest thing to watch was to see our brother extremely ill and instead of focussing on healing he was constantly burdened by someone harassing him to obtain his money. He didn’t even have the opportunity to heal from the moment he became ill.

We have retained a lawyer to guide us thru this process, and to right a wrong, in the interim we have been asked to state what happened to our brother.  We are in the process of fighting for what my brother wanted,  however she was so clever she managed to make it so that our family would have to spend most of our inheritance just to fight her in court.. she was smart, manipulative and got exactly what she wanted , we will decide whether we want to take her to court, if we do we will have to spend all the money our brother wanted us to have just to fight her ..

Here is his story, every word of it backed up by my brothers statements, with videos and taped conversations he asked me make. Every word.  

Our brother went from a happy perfectly capable able hard working man before meeting her in a good job with Nanaimo hospital as an engineer, with a grown son, to a very unhappy marriage of just a few years that completely crushed him, he lost his family, his dignity and in the end he even lost his life, and his wishes weren’t taken into consideration in death. 

Quickly into his marriage our brother started having some cognitive problems, he was acting very out of character, we would later learn it was a serious health issue.  

His wife didn’t want to deal with his problems, her love died only a few years into the marriage, like my brother often said she only wanted the health, not the sickness, so when he became ill she made him leave..

Within a few months of their separation our brother was acting more out of character, personality changes and severe headaches, as well suddenly he could not read or write, so our family sought medical help, he was taken to the hospital where we learned he’d had a serious brain bleed.  The doctor told us at the time he could quite easily die. 

It was apparent he was very ill because he couldn’t even understand eg. that his glasses ( on his face) weren’t gloves for his hands? 

 

While a doctor was with him making his diagnosis telling us how serious this was his wife pulled us out of the room and started discussing what she would get from his Will if he died?  

We were so surprised but just thought maybe she was upset and not thinking, so we ignored it and we went back into the room to take care of him. We were all friends so we just passed it off as a stressed out wife at the time.. but we now know that was the first 🚩 

For context - My brother had made out of Will a few years prior that named his wife and myself executors and co-acting power of attorneys however she refused to act, so he asked me to take care of it, so I was his POA , my brother had written his will up to protect himself and his family, he said tho if they were separated he would not want her to inherit ANY of his money, only his siblings and his son would be eligible to inherit anything.  

So because they were separated her first thought was for her inheritance, she afraid he was going to die and she wasn’t going to inherit anything. we also found out it’s the law in British Columbia if you’re separated for more than one year you don’t receive anything . 

The next day we went to the hospital to visit my brother again my husband and I found him sitting on the side of the bed completely agitated his BP was up because he said his wife had been calling since 6am talking to him about what she was going to get out of the Will if he died? He was hyperventilating over that.. 

We tried to calm him down and settle him but the next day it was the same story,  about how much money SHE was going to get from his Will. He was so upset,  that was all she talked about he said to me, it’s a really sad thing to find out your own wife doesn’t really care about you she only cares about your money.. 

On the second day she even said to me “I want to get a lawyer up here right now and take his son out of his Will because I want 100% of it! .. we couldn’t believe it ? His son?  Well my husband and I were so very upset by this … we weren’t even able to be there for my brother with his illness because we were constantly harassed by her talking about his money.  I was in total shock I thought I knew this person I had no idea she was capable of this .. More 🚩 flags…

Then while my brother was in hospital a few days later my brothers son contacted us to see his father because he was scared he could die, they hadn’t seen each other for years due to a family issue, so I asked my brother if his son could come in, my brother said sure, but unfortunately his wife stepped in and decided she was going to call security and have him taken out because she did not want him to close to his father, she told me she wanted him removed from the Will.  

Tim told me that she would not let him see his son.  She told me this was not her idea at all it was Tim who didn’t want to see his son, but the next day we go see him and she has put a sheet up saying “no one is allowed in unless approved beforehand” we walked in and lifted this sheet she had up and said what’s going on? She says oh we’re not letting Adam in because “Tim” is just not comfortable with it.. later my brother called me and said he was totally comfortable with it but that she is the one who didn’t want it. And she also said she wanted all other family approved by her first.  My brother and sister especially.. 

We started getting a really bad feeling after all this so we started 

taping/videotaping everything because we could see our brother was being manipulated.   As a result we have countless video tapes of them that show my brother distressed, upset and repeating many times on the video about how upset he is that all she cares about is his money. 

So I asked her not to talk about the Will anymore, Tim is very upset by it .. it wasn’t the time or the place and that he needed to concern himself with getting better.  But he said she still wouldn’t stop, she hounded him ..he said,  about it all day long. 

My husband and I were even pulled aside by a nurse who said she could see his wife was trying to talk to him all the time about money, the staff could hear her talking with him every time she came in, and they were surprised she was also putting his family down to him, he said that’s all she did is call you guys down.  

My brother was hospitalized for about six weeks and during that time, after he went home my husband sister and I went in and took care of him, brought him meals, took him to speech therapy and everything we could do. 

However when my brother regained his strength and mental awareness more gradually, but never fully, and he would eventually get far worse.. but he gained enough back to function again and be somewhat independent he told us that she snuck him out of the hospital and took him to a lawyer to have the Will changed 100% into her name, making sure to exclude everyone in his family, including his son. He was really upset about this but he said he felt manipulated.  He felt used .. 

He said she told him she would give him “attention” and took him out on a pass on “Valentine’s Day” to have him sign everything over to her, and sure enough I saw the date - it was dated February 14, 2018, valentine’s Day. 

After she left he asked me to take him back to that lawyer, so when he regained his strength I did,  he told the lawyer that this is what his wife wanted, NOT him, he was angry, he told the lawyer his feelings and asked the lawyer to destroy the codicil. 

 The lawyer told Tim he would have to destroy it if he was so against it. So that’s exactly what Tim did, he did it that night. 

The lawyer also told us while we were there he could see his wife was controlling him (she had a long list of what to say to him written out by her) because Tim couldn’t read or write, she wrote it all out and told him to give it to the lawyer, the lawyer said I wouldn’t deal with her he said you could tell she was trying to manipulate him and he told her to leave his office. Even the lawyer backed up my brothers story. Everyone did … 

Tim told me on dozens of occasions he wanted his money to go to his family if she didn’t take him back he didn’t want her to inherit any of his money. None not one cent he said. 

And he said even if I went back with her and she was back in his Will I still want my family written in for a portion. But she had us taken out completely and herself put in for 100% .. he told me he didn’t realize she was this greedy, he said I had my siblings in the world for 10% each and now you guys won’t even get that. 

At this point he was just home from the hospital,  but needed lots of support from his family. He said she didn’t want to be a part of that, he said “ya that’s because she still thinks the codicil ( new will) is in effect so there was no need for her to spend time with me anymore” She had no idea at that point that he had destroyed it. 

Within about 2 months of my brother arriving home, I got the call that his son had died, I was so upset I waited up all night long so I wouldn’t wake my brother up (because I knew how sick he was) to tell him in the morning that his son had died. 

He was so upset he never got to see his son again because of her he told me. He told me he told her his son was dead in the auto message - driving will text soon in the way to her church and she said oh well it’s best don’t you think ? 

He was very heartbroken over that , he told me she would come by only to get money and now that she had the codicil she barely spoke to him. 

She was always “stepping back”whenever anything got a little bit too tough for her, but as soon as she needed anything she was back in the picture, contacting him and calling me, taking money, even begging me not to hang up on her asking about money, eventually the only reason she came back was after 10 months or so,  she went almost a year without speaking to him ..only to say she wanted a divorce and he was to pay for it…. 

Tim told me that she wanted to sell all his belongings and get the money for them so it wasn’t long before she sold his car, his boat, his furniture and even his bed, every time we went over there he was more disheartened, more sad and he had a very empty apartment, he had nothing to sleep even on except his couch at that point and by this time he was very mentally unsound his son had just died and he was barely able to take care of himself. My brother was an absolutely emotionally devastated man. Imagine this happening to your family and how would you feel watching him being taken advantage of and there was nothing you could do about it. 

 He was such good guy he didn’t even see that she was just using him, she didn’t love him, all of us now think she never did . 

Then one day he told us as she was going through everything and selling it she started to get upset she tore his whole house apart looking for the codicil she’d had him make up, but she couldn’t find it .. so he told me he finally got brave and told her what he wanted and he told her that he destroyed it .. he said she told him she would not speak to him again then . 

The next day she called me,  I have that conversation still and in it she begged for us to give her money if anything happened to him, because he did not want her to have any and she knew it , and as disappointed as I was in her for everything she had already done to our family I said actually I would .. that I would give her a certain percentage .. I told her I would ask Tim what amount would be fair to him he told me 35%, because she kept begging for it,  but when I told her that she said oh my goodness is that all! She said I think I deserve 100%. It was unfathomable that somebody would act like this. 

But whenever I needed to phone her she would block your number, telling everyone to respect her boundaries. She’d hide, hang up and not face anything .. She wanted everything on her terms, always stepping back whenever it got too hard. 

Tim called me one night shortly after saying she was mad at him, he said she came over he said and threw away all of his pictures of his life, with all his happiest moments.. he told me his happiest moments were when he was married to Sandra , he was so upset about that my husband and I remember him phoning one day so frustrated saying I guess I don’t need any of my memories anymore because she just threw them all away .  

Then very shortly thereafter he had to call the police on her, telling them she had hit him. We explained the situation to the police and they advised us to take out a case of elder abuse on her which we felt we had to. So she had a case of elder abuse, he had called police, she’d been reported to the public trustee for trying to manipulate somebody with decreased mental status to change their will for her gain. 

So my brother said she was back to telling him he had to make out another will or she wouldn’t speak to him .. we have learned a lot thru this process,  the burden of proving you are of sound mind isn’t very important when you’re going to sign over your life savings to someone you don’t want to. 

The lawyer only had to ask my brother a few questions and just like that he was leaving her his entire estate to someone who wasn’t even related to him at that point only due to pressure from constant manipulation.  In a case like this there should definitely be an advocate for someone who is mentally unstable and at risk on his side right there to make sure everything is above board. 

This is at a point in my brothers life when he had a second brain bleed he was far worse and never did regain the ability to read or write,  and he was throwing things in the garbage (like a plate, cutlery etc) he was letting his laundry pile up and beginning to get so confused he could hardly converse normally… my brother was always an immaculate person and now he was not clean, which was completely unlike him, he didn’t know when to throw away food and when to keep it.. he left filthy dishes in the sink that were rotting,  every time my sister and I came down we had to do the dishes, he was deteriorating,  he said she was there to get money from him sometimes $4000 at a time .. but would never help him do his dishes.. 

or make a meal. 

At this time a psychiatrist even deemed him (in writing) becoming unable to care for himself, and this is a man who is signing his entire life savings over to a woman who wants nothing to do with him except to divorce him ..

He told us she manipulated him into thinking he was not going to have her love or attention if he didn’t give her his money. And he was in a very vulnerable state of mind. 

So his wife is trying to convince the family that this is Tim‘s idea, all the while Tim was phoning all the family telling them to fight her if anything happened to him .. he said he couldn’t fight her himself 

He said he would beg her to just drive him downtown,  and give her gas money for a month,  she would drive him downtown and then she leave him there and he could hardly walk… she’d say I’m not driving you home, even though he had just bought her a car paid her rent and given her thousands of dollars. All comments Tim made to all of us. He was lost hurt and so sad wandering around downtown with a sore leg totally discouraged mentally very challenged now due to his second brain bleed and completely alone except for his brothers and sisters and his mom .. 

My brother was so emotionally torn up during his entire last 5 years of his life, she would email family notes saying that we were interested in his money trying to shift the blame on to us. It was shameful to blame us, the only people that were helping him through this whole difficult time in his life .. Tim himself said not once did any family even bring up the topic of a will or money unless he was begging for advice as to what to do with her. Never did we even talk to him about it never and all she did was talk about it with him every chance she got. 

And in those months after he got home and was living on his own he was still in need of constant care so my sister and I came from out of town made him meals, took him shopping every week and helped him do his laundry. We did everything for him.  I’ll never forget one time she emailed me and told me Tim doesn’t care about anything you guys are doing for him he takes one of the meals you make for him and Throws it in the garbage, he hates your cooking.. what a awful discouraging comment that was to make about what we were doing for him. She just put him and us down at all times. 

We were his complete emotional support always talking to him on the phone and whatever he needed we were there. As was my mom who lived right across the hall. My mom was there for him 24/7 even though she was 83 years old she helped him out so much. 

With all the stress Tim then declined even more with yet another brain bleed, after not calling us for the day which was quite unusual, my husband called the police who found him laying in the back alley of his apartment with no clothes on, he was taken by ambulance to the hospital, diagnosed with another more brain bleed, and this time he would be there for a month, and then to add to all the stress my mother also entered the hospital about 3 weeks after Tim, at the time Tim was wandering around the hospital in a diaper he was very incoherent, i’ll never forget him walking down the hall with two hospital bags in his hands his hair a mess mumbling to himself walking all the way down the hall to the windows and then all the way back up not even noticing that we were standing there, it was very sad. 

He was visiting our mom every day she was in there and he could barely remember her name .. my mom then had to have emergency surgery and we never knew the outcome, but sadly it ended up where we had to take my mother off life support because her heart could not withstand the surgery she had just had .  I watched him say to her just before she died “don’t worry mom I swear I will take care of the siblings” especially my youngest brother if you die. “  it was a heartbreaking time together as a family.. 

While Tim was there she never once came up to the hospital not one visit not one call. This is before covid .. no excuses.. He was so disappointed and hurt, he said she manipulated used and pushed him around from the moment she met him, it continued until the day he died. 

Tim was released from the hospital shortly after my mom‘s passing …my sister and I and my other brother looked after him at the time. I can remember my brother had just got home that very day and she had left him dozens of voicemails and all of them were yelling at him. Being angry because he was close to his family. Not one word of condolence about my mother not one bit of understanding for Tim and what he had just been through.  

We as a family had a lot on our plate.  I was his power of attorney for my mom and my brother at the same time, and had to take care of everything, I was dealing with my mothers funeral, cleaning up her entire apartment, moving everything and selling it as fast as I could, meanwhile taking care of my brother who was walking up and down the halls in a diaper mumbling and so confused, I was talking with his doctors daily and trying to figure out a care plan for him to come home .. So we fixed his meals together as a family packed up all my mom’s belongings and sold as much as we could we got a moving truck and we took whatever we could out of there cleaned up the apartment and as we left Tim was not alone in that apartment by himself and  he was declining rapidly ..he was so confused by everything, the loss of his son, his mom, and the complete loss of his health, his wife pushing and pulling him and all directions, we felt so sorry for him .. he didn’t know which way to turn.  Our family was going through some of the worst times of our life ..

Every weekend my sister took her one day off and went down and took him grocery shopping, and my husband and I came down a couple hours from up island and brought him meals and took care of him and took him grocery shopping as well .. 

Meanwhile she is still concerned about a will .. my brother is in no shape to write up a new will .. but Tim said she just would not give up,  she was going to get 100% of his money no matter what or he said she won’t give me any attention she won’t even phone me back.. and I’m really lonely I’m all alone here now that mom is gone .

He told me over and over again begging me to fight it if he ever died.. he said these are not my wishes at all, they’re hers.  

 In the following months he was declining more rapidly so he was eventually evicted from his apartment due to his declining health and confusion he was so ill he was relieving himself on the floor of the lobby, harassing tenants, and not knowing how to pay his rent/bills .. so my husband myself and my sister had to find a place for my brother to go… we had many meetings to discuss what we were going to do with him because we had checked into many places in Nanaimo and they just wouldn’t take him, we had to act fast, he only had three weeks before eviction day.. but she had another new will drawn up we found out even though he was in this state of mind! .. so we didn’t see her anywhere to help during that time.. never did she help with a thing.  ..I’ll never forget my brother telling me she wouldn’t even drive me to the doctor and his foot and knee were so swollen he couldn’t even walk , but he said she would drive me to the bank anytime! .. we tried to tell him how much she was using him so often but he couldn’t understand it because he was so confused and desperate for attention.  In the end he actually told us he hated her. 

It’s very difficult to find a place for a 61 year-old man who doesn’t meet all the qualifications to go into, there are not many facilities available for people with cognitive difficulties … but we had to move him somewhere so just as we were planning to move him, just a few days prior, he ended up being so ill he had to have a surgery, I got a call from a surgeon who told me he was denied permission to operate-  by her,  the surgeon called me and said would you please ok this surgery? because your brothers going to die and no one will give permission. 

 I said yes of course I will!  ..He had a hernia and had he not had the operation immediately it would’ve strangulated .. that’s who she is. 

Several days later when he was ready to leave the hospital after his operation we didn’t quite know where we were going to place Tim because he was a certain age where they wouldn’t take him in a facility, or anywhere else.. he was cognitively impaired he was confused he was agitated he was threatening, and Tim needed more than we could do for him at that point he needed a place to stay where they could help him. 

So we had to take matters into our own hands,  Tim was in the hospital still thank goodness, so we had a place that was safe for him,  meanwhile my family and I moved all his items into a storage unit and I had so much to do to take care of all my brothers bills, cleaning, moving everything and making sure everything was done ..   

 But all the while as we’re trying to help our brother shes trying to convince him that we were doing something wrong with his money and because he was so confused at that point he didn’t know what to believe, we eventually realized eventually through a counsellor who told us what people like this do to gain control .. what they do first is they “isolate” the person by turning him against all of us, telling him we were stealing for example, or lying to him, .. telling him we weren’t to be too trusted, for example- my brother sold one of my family members a mirror and a dresser , it was paid for, but she convinced my brother that this family member had stolen it because Tim had forgotten that she had paid for it . 

Another example is when we were moving all of his things into storage he told us to go out for a dinner because it’s the least he could do considering what we were doing for him, and then he had forgotten that he said that, so when SHE saw a charge on his account for a very reasonably priced dinner at white spot  (he couldn’t read) so she convinced him that we were stealing that dinner money from him. 

All we ever did was good for our brother and help him, but she’d twist it into something bad, so eventually she talked him into believing we were doing something wrong, thereby isolating him . And basically trying to turn him against us.. 

- one day i’m planning on uploading voicemails and tapes on here if I have to so people could hear Tim saying it for himself . 

I can imagine the “ version” of the story she’s told her family, but I wonder how her children would feel if she remarried and lost her health only to have someone prey on their mother,  then when their mother passed away they realized that the man had manipulated her out of all her money, when it was promised to the children. This is something the children would never get over.  

The impact on them would be so damaging, basically taking away money from them for there future. 

Its not healthy to harbour hate resentment and not be able to forgive but that’s the cost for all of us.. 

She really doesn’t realize the impact of what she has done to our family,  she’s the worst thing we’ve ever encountered, The damage it did to my brother and all of us will be here for good. It will always be painful.  

My brother trusted me enough to make me a Power of attorney and executor on his will, and she took that away from me too, and I knew when I took on the role of looking after him financially when he got ill it was a big job and I knew I had to keep every single receipt and a detailed list of expenses. I’ve  been a power of attorney for a few people and never once had I bought so much as a pencil without a receipt for it, so I had a detailed cost and time of every single item I bought .. everything was completely above board and every dime was accounted for .. I sent that detailed list down to my brother at the hospital after she told him she thought we were stealing and the social workers looked at it and explained it to Tim and Tim said it was perfect ..no one had a problem with it … because it was  . I don’t believe in stealing from anyone.  

After everything we had done for him after all the work I’ve done on with two people my mom and him at the same time being a power of attorney packing up all my mom‘s belongings and moving everything out taking care of everything legally for her and then now my brother and not only did I not even get a thank you I literally got an absolute insult of someone telling me I needed to account for what I had done because it looked like there was an impropriety. That’s what she would do try to turn him against you and that way she could make him believe whatever she wanted. 

Even though a psychiatrist had deemed my brother completely incapable of taking care of himself the hospital wanted to place my brother somewhere?  they said they couldn’t keep him in the hospital for an extended period … I didn’t know where they were going to put him so they were thinking about putting him into a low-rent motel with home support workers, she advocated for him to be let out and put there … 

We all had a meeting where she didn’t even want my sister to attend each person was sent a code for this meeting , she said she wouldn’t even attend if my sister got the code, but she wasn’t going to control us so I gave my sister my code and we both attended the meeting,  …my sister phoned in as she had every right to and together we advocated for him to be kept in the hospital under psychiatric care and evaluated longer, at this point he was threatening to shoot people from a park bench, I’m so grateful that they listened to us! Instead of where she wanted him to go, there was obviously a valid reason because he ended up staying in the psychiatric ward for a year and a half.  They wouldn’t have done that if it wasn’t absolutely necessary , It kept him safe unlike where they and she  wanted him to go to a cheap motel where she knew he would be at risk.. 

While he was in the hospital even  the psychiatric nurses at the hospital told both my husband and myself they thought she was the most manipulative person with him. They watched her come in and could see what she was doing.... I spoke to them on the phone several times. 

He told us she took our phone numbers out of his phone, she changed his number and kept him from phoning us, but a couple of the psychiatric nurses there knew the situation and let Tim phone me 🤗🤗 after Tim pleaded with him to let him do that from the office phone.. he was begging us to come and see him.. i’m so grateful that he actually got to us and told us what was going on behind the scenes , but by that time it was Covid and we couldn’t.. 

 

I did talk to him on the phone a couple of times though. 

We also found out she hid his cell phone on him so that he couldn’t find it for days. We’ve helped him look for it several times because she hid it on him. She’d hid it in her house and let him believe that he lost it on a walk so he would end up looking out in the cold all over the neighbourhood did it when he first became ill. 

I found out during the stay in the psychiatric ward she got him to contact another lawyer through zoom, fill out a form so that she was a power of attorney she got him to take me off of that too.. now she had complete control of everything.. good job ☹️🤔 she finally had it all .. 

She also talked him into telling the  doctors not to let us see him .. so she kept us from seeing him in the last two years of his life, by this time he was so lost and confused the nurse told me that he barely knew who he was , and that he would never be getting out the psychiatric ward. 

Eventually though she told us they did manage to find a facility to take him. But that Linda was not allowing any family to see him. She had the power of attorney signed over to her so she had the right to say. 

So no matter what she did we would not give up we put him on the police “missing persons list on Vancouver Island” but still she kept him away from us … 

Tim‘s wishes were to see us and never to push his family out of his life and his wishes were also to have us in his will.. if they weren’t then why would he have had us in his will when he was of sound mind ? And if he didn’t want to contact us why would he have done it whenever he got the chance behind her back ? He did it so many times .. I have so many messages from him saying the opposite. 

He had each one of us in it for 10% of his estate, and if they were divorced he wanted her to have none of it .. so that means we would have split it all.. that’s what scared her ..

And now I have to be the one to fight for this family. This whole thing has just broken my heart watching my brother suffer and my son die and then to have to deal with somebody like this who just victimized us over and over even down to getting his ashes.. 

To make matters worse our son died I contacted her to tell my brother my son had passed away and she didn’t even bother to do that, he never knew… she could’ve cared less. She’s the coolest person I’ve ever met. 

And now my brother has died, I asked her how ?  Desperate to get answers she said it was alcoholism, and then she hung up on us… imagine trying to talk to somebody about how your brother just died, and they just hang up on you, talk about cold . 

So I knew that wasn’t true … So I put in a call the coroner to find out how he died and she said no that’s not true - he choked to death and there’s an investigation into it.. 

 

So we or writing this in hopes that no one else will ever have to go through something like this . Our lawyer told us that sadly many people out there are victimized by people like this, they people like her all the time . People who have no conscience. 

 So now she is walking away with my brothers life savings and she did nothing but manipulate it out of his hands, it was his life savings.. not hers, she was only with him for a few years…  and it’s a sad thing to watch for a family,  and we wanna prevent any other family from being victimized and traumatized by somebody like this again and we’re going to try and change the law.. to make sure that anyone who has mental difficulties has an advocate on their side to have to be present at a lawyers office so that nobody can manipulate and take someone’s life savings.. we are currently trying to tell our story and talk to the proper institutions to see what be done.. 

We were been advised by our lawyer to ask to contact her ourselves to honour the original will, which has us at getting a 10%. Which we had to do before we take any further action, so we followed his advice but we knew she’d never offer us anything she worked too hard to get it all. 

 This is a person who claims to be a Christian who helps out all the time as a volunteer ?at a food bank .. I wonder if they know about this? She felt the need to contact our church?  to tell them we sent her a nasty email? All they did was wonder why she would phone them? 

I guess she figured somehow they have control over our lives? Or we would be in trouble because of it I guess? Our church certainly isn’t going to stop us from sending an email to somebody especially when it was because I was angry because she wouldn’t give me my brothers ashes that’s for sure..  they totally understood. 

I don’t know any Christian that could ever do all that she’s done to our family,  I wonder if her pastor knows?  

She had to have Complete control right to the end, she wouldn’t even give me my dear brother‘s ashes . What’s sad was a person was my friend who confided in me constantly and I helped her dozens of times, this was the last person I thought would hurt us all like this.

So that is our story , weve been through torture with this whole thing from the beginning of my brothers illness with all the deaths in our family in the last few years ...all the trips we made back-and-forth just to help him,  never once even asking for or expecting a dime.. 

Last thing he said to me “I want to see you guys so bad .. why aren’t  you coming to see me? please see if you can arrange it?” Then he said I love you,  talk to you soon… The last thing I said to him is I love you too and we’re going to try as hard as we can to get to you. 

We never saw him again because of her…sadly he died alone, without his real family.

We do feel good but we can hold our heads up, we tried to help him so much in the last years of his life and we would never give up for the good and friends really helped us through this and reassured us that we are the ones that did the right thing, we always stood by him we always had faith and we will see him again.. 

I am also super proud of all my brothers and sisters for how they dealt with the situation, it was extremely trying,  but every one of us stepped up to the plate …we know she’s never had any tragedy in her life she has no idea what it’s like to deal with it .. I noticed about her the whole time she was married to him there was no empathy . It was about her at all times .. 

We never seek to hurt anyone .. we also know money doesn’t make you happy, so we would never manipulate to get it from anyone.  

We fought for him, we tried to see him, we searched for him until the day he died, we moved heaven and earth to try and help him, we even made a proper Obituary so your family could be mentioned in it, even after he died she didn’t want to give us his ashes the wonderful lady at the funeral home gave them to us, and she also wrote up an obituary that completely left out his entire family except for her, she didn’t even mention his own son. 

Don’t worry Tim we tried to fight for you as hard as we could.. we will see you again in a better place and explain exactly what she did to you when you can understand better.. we love our brother always  

This year has been one of the worst of my life, I never thought I could get through the death of my son and then my brother, Its been a year sadness, grief, despair, sleeplessness, darkest clouds,  anger, depression, fear and rage, to top it off  greed and selfishness from someone I thought was a friend 

.. But… I thank God for allowing me to also see the best in people! From the Iove I received , the kindness, the unselfishness from true Friends, the giving, not taking! and the compassion from people who truly care about you .. I appreciate the new friends Ive made thru this, and the ones who have stuck by us! And ones that came to us in support friends I never never knew I even had until now, and I’m beginning to see the light at the end of the tunnel.. the good conquered the evil..people like this never win .. only good wins 

Dec 5…Postscript… 🧨 we received documents in the mail but we expected them, she had a will and sure enough she had him write it up so she got everything and her sons as well, she did a great job! 

Just to see it an actual Will in print really made us see how right we were.. 

she got all of HER wishes and none of Tim’s were fulfilled..  I have my brother on video on multiple occasions saying he didn’t want her or her sons to have anything. One right before the brain bleed and several after. 

As soon as I saw her sons in it oh wow we know for a fact Tim would never have put her sons back into his will because he was trying to take them out for years.  Tim didn’t get along with either of them .. So there’s no way Tim would’ve ever written it that way, I have proof of him saying that. The part about her sons shows me how completely she had total manipulation over him.. 

The date of the Will she made him get is very telling too! July 9, 2019 within days of this my brother was evicted from his apartment due to reliving himself in the lobby of his apartment, it was sad he was very brain damaged, he was becoming threatening due to his deteriorating condition, he was putting his clothes in the fridge and his dishes in the cupboard in the bedroom, he was he was so incredibly confused, and he couldn’t read or write, he couldn’t even pay his own rent, and within a month the psychiatrist deemed him completely incapable of taking care of himself .. and yet he can give his life savings away to someone he didn’t even like or wasn’t related to? Not a chance!  

I’m gonna keep writing about the story ... until it’s resolved .. 

And the last thing he said to us was I love you guys please fight for me..

And we are

We also know - When you are treated unfairly in life .. remember this scripture  

There are righteous people who are treated as if they had acted wickedly, and there are wicked people who are treated as if they had acted righteously. The wicked may win but not for long 

We have decided to fight for him, January 2022

So many people have contacted us About a similar story in their family and we’ve had lots of support for this, many people have to deal with evil, and we’ve told our story to many people about what happened to us with her, she’s like a evil snake waiting to pounce on some victim .. most evil person I’ve ever met in my life.. funny I remember a nurse at the hospital who knew her really well saying oh yeah she’s in here every day and you can tell she’s absolutely using him, and then she’ll come up to the nurses and laugh about him behind his back.. they said she’s something ..

and it’s really been kind of a healing experience to get our story out and have other people support us.. 

I thanks for all the support of messages and especially the people who know this person from working with her and have reached out to us and told us how she has treated them also.

 They remember her doing nothing but maligning the family every chance she could get to her husband. They could see she was working him just for his money then. 

As of March we have just found out from the coroner what really happened to my brother. 

It was awful and I would imagine the minute she found out was the day she started the rest day of her life so happy she had finally gotten all she had worked for.